Leonie and Dawn both asked about the planner. I am sorry it has taken me so long to respond.
Let me first preface this by saying that Ben is ten years old. A year ago, this idea would not have worked. Six months ago, this system would not have been effective because he was not ready for it. A half year has made a huge difference in his willingness and desire to be organized and to be responsible for some of his own work.
The planner I chose for him is a simple, spiral bound academic planner beginning in July and running through June. It is tabbed and contains both monthly as well as weekly pages.
On the monthly page spread, we write in any events that are important to him such as birthdays, lessons, sports practices, feast days and classes outside the home. Right now, I am the person who fills out the calendar. I think as the school year progresses, Ben will be in charge of writing down the important dates to remember.
On Sunday nights, we sit down and discuss the upcoming week. Sometimes this only takes a few minutes. We use the same template for each week and fill in the pages to be read or completed, projects to be worked on, books for reading, etc.
Many of his subjects are done independently like Math, Reading, Geography, Language and Spelling A couple of these subjects are done by a grab jar system, which I can expand upon in another post. I always review his work and am available if he has any questions while he is working independently. Several subjects such as Catechism, History, Science, Latin and Spanish are done with Mom. Christopher also sits in for several of the lessons and does the history hands on projects right along with us.
The system is really rather simple but effective in that is gives him daily goals and direction but also allows him to work ahead if he so desires. I have had the least number of conflicts this school year than in the past several years. I think that is in part due to the planner and to the independence it fosters. It keeps me relatively organized and less likely to fly by the seat of my pants as I have done in the past. By planning only for the upcoming week, I allow myself flexibility if someone is sick or needs a day off from schoolwork. There is no need to erase and rewrite eight weeks of lesson plans just because I deviated from the plans for an afternoon. (You may have noticed that I write in pencil just in case we need to make a change during the week.)
All in all, this is working well for us. Ben enjoys knowing what he should be focusing on and I can measure in some small tangible way, that we are indeed getting something done. It helps our relationship because we plan together and work out the plan, meeting our goals and feeling a sense of accomplishment.